How Masturbation Can Negatively Affect Your Relationship

Although masturbation can be a positive part of a relationship, it can also have negative impacts.  Sometimes self-love habits can get in the way of your relationship with your partner, and this is never a good thing. Here are some ways masturbation can negatively affect your relationship.

For some, masturbation within the relationship creates distance. Masturbation can be a nice way to enjoy some “me” time, but sometimes it can create unneeded distance between partners. If you are using your free time to masturbate rather than focus on your partner, this can create issues and resentment.  It is more important to try to connect with your partner, than yourself.  So be mindful of what you dedicate your time to.

For others, the issue is that masturbation becomes the only way they can be satisfied. This can be a major blow to a partner’s ego.  Knowing how to pleasure yourself in specific ways, and growing attached to those can easily put your partner at a disadvantage. You may want to give your hands and toys a break, and allow your partner to gain a competitive edge.

When you look forward to masturbating more than an intimate moment with your partner, then it is negatively affecting your relationship.  For some people, masturbating decreases their sex drives, making intimacy with a partner more difficult. You don’t want to be in the position where you need to choose between masturbation and having sex with your partner. For the health of the relationship, connecting with your partner should be a bigger priority than self-love.

So how do you keep solo play from being a negative in your relationship?

1. Don’t try to hide it:

The last thing a partner wants to do is walk into a situation where they are surprised about your sexual habits.  Be open about masturbation, and make it something they can talk to you about.  This means they are more likely to tell you if there is an issue and you work to resolve it.

2. Masturbate with Your Partner

Making your partner part of the process can mean something new and exciting for both of you.  This can add some spice to your love life and rather than making masturbation a problem getting in the way of your relationship, it can help breathe new life into it.

3. Support Healthy Masturbation

Some people fall under the “anti-masturbation” category.  But rather than stigmatize a perfectly healthy and normal act, you should be open to it.  Being able to have honest discussions about self-love can decrease the negative effects and make the connection between you and your partner stronger.  

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