A woman’s odds of reaching an orgasm

The female orgasm has always been somewhat surrounded by a mystique quality that drives men crazy when it comes to intercourse. On the one hand, 85 to 90% of women are able to achieve an orgasm when the clitoris is stimulated either manually or orally.  But up to 75% of women are unable to do the same through sexual intercourse.  Unless the clitoris is being stimulated in some manner during coitus, the odds are against it happening.

Does this mean a woman who is unable to achieve an orgasm during intercourse has a mental or emotional issue? Of course not.  It’s just how the female body responds and really, an orgasm is an orgasm no matter which way it’s achieved.

Yet men usually have this notion that unless a woman is able to reach climax during intercourse, he must be doing something wrong.  Are there ways to improve the odds for women to reach the peak of arousal resulting in an orgasm during intercourse?  It never hurts to try to find out and here are some ideas that just might put those odds in your favor:

·         Both of you need to relax.

When there is an inordinate amount of emphasis or pressure on getting her to experience a mind-blowing orgasm during intercourse, it’ll probably backfire.  Just relax with each of you simply enjoying the moment.  Knowing someone desires you so much that they want to be physically intimate with you, can be one of the biggest turn-ons of all. 

·         Tell me what you want

Communication is critical during sex.  Neither partner is a mind reader so each of you will need to voice what pleasures you the most.  Asking a woman what feels good to her shows you care increasing the chances she may become more aroused.

·         Compliment her

All women want to know they are beautiful and when a man tells them so, this gives her more confidence in how she looks naked and a greater likelihood of achieving orgasm.

·         Use fantasy to your advantage

Fantasizing during sex is nothing new and can be one way for her to improve reaching orgasm.  To experience complete sexual arousal, it takes concentration which sometimes women may have a hard time doing.  If she is open to you telling her what your fantasies are and vice versa, she may respond quite positively.  Use this technique only if she agrees and only if it doesn’t harm the relationship.

·         Turn up the thermostat

Yes, room temperature makes a difference.  Many women complain of being too cold and if the ambient air temperature is a bit on the chilly side, it can damper her chances of reaching an orgasm.  A study actually tested this – if the room was too cold, only half of the women orgasmed but if the women wore socks making her feel warmer, then 80% were able to do so.

·         Focus on foreplay

Men are like rabbits when it comes to climaxing. It doesn’t take long from start to finish for them to ejaculate – most men can achieve this within three to five minutes.  Women are more like a turtle – slow and steady.  Studies show it can take a woman anywhere from 15 to 40 minutes to reach an orgasm.  Hang in there men, it is well worth the time and effort for both of you.

·         Try a new position

There is a position you may not have learned about called the coital alignment technique.  If you try it out, it increases her odds of having an orgasm by 56%.  This technique is very similar to the missionary position but with a few tweaks allowing more direct stimulation of the clitoris by his pubic bone.