Great sex begins with a great lover.  The kind of person who places a lot of emphasis on their sexual performance in the bedroom taking pride in leading their partner to new heights they’ve never reached before.

These qualities seem to come a little more naturally to men than women.  Maybe because of how women are raised they come across a little more demure and less assertive in showing off the true passion burning inside of them.

Becoming a better lover is essential to our relationships with one another.  Sex takes us to a deeper level of communication that you don’t do with anyone else.  It solidifies our commitment to each other leading to improved mental and physical health.

To become the lover you’ve always dreamed of, it helps to know what a man wants in bed.  Once you know what it is he desires, suddenly your relationship becomes closer and the act of crawling into bed at night (or maybe other times of the day) becomes a whole lot more exciting.

1.      Be generous with compliments

Men may not seem like it but they relish sincere compliments just like women.  They particularly need it for sexual confidence in how they perceive you in reacting to them in bed.  Compliments should be given throughout the day so that by the time night falls, he’s ready to take you in his arms.  Tell him how handsome he is and how sexy he looks.  Just like women, men worry about their gut size, hair or lack thereof and need you to reassure him by whispering in his ear the stud that he is.

2.      It’s not all about his penis

Yes, men do care (a lot) about their penis but there are many other areas of his body that have erogenous zones.  Caress your hands across his chest, back, between his thighs, touch his earlobes and run your hands through his hair.  Another area that will lead him to high excitement is to gently hold his testicles and stroke the area between the scrotum and anus called the perineum.  He’ll love it.

3.      Tell them what he wants to hear

Men like it when a woman talks to him during sex.  It could be telling him your wildest fantasy, praising him or telling him what drives you crazy.  All that talk stimulates sexual activity turning him into a raging stallion.

4.      Send subtle sexy signs to him

Men are natural born hunters and love to take on a conquest.  This is where romance enters allowing men to court you – yes, just like long ago – making them win you over instead of you giving in so easily.  The chase is the buildup of excitement before the actual event.  Small gestures of sexual teasing during the day can lead to big exhilaration at the end of the day.  Send sexy text messages or voicemail, give him a back rub or a knowing glance across the room.   Just make sure you fulfill what he is expecting these activities to lead up to.

5.      Understand sometimes men just want sex for sex’s sake

Don’t take it personal if a man seems like he simply wants raw sex – the kind where he wants to devour you – but in a good way.  When a woman can enjoy the “take-me-now” kind of sex every so often, you will find that it’s a compliment from a man in that he wants to ravish all of you which can really be quite a turn on for you both.

6.       Men need and crave intimacy

Often men seem too tough to care about being intimate as in the need to feel close to someone willing to show their vulnerable side.  Women can bring this out in a man by giving him hugs, tender kisses, and holding him in bed at night.  It may seem like all a man wants is sex every night but for him, sex is his way of being intimate while at the same time, allowing him to experience tremendous pleasure.  For both men and women, sex not only brings a couple closer together physically and mentally, but also alleviates anxiety and stress, reduces blood pressure and promotes healing.