Secrets to a long and fulfilled sex life

Maintaining a happy, fulfilled long-term relationship takes time and effort.  Both individuals in this relationship have responsibilities toward one another in keeping the loving bonds between them connected and sustained as the years go by.  One very important element not to forget is the sexual bond a couple shares.  If the ability to get along and to like being around one another binds you together, then long-term sexual satisfaction cements that bond more permanently.

Whether you’re in a brand new relationship or one you’ve had for many, many years, everyone needs ideas on how to make the sexual side of your connection last and last. 

Here are secrets to long-term relationships keeping your sex life interesting, invigorated and satisfied:

·      Relax and enjoy

Being overly self-consciousness about a less-than-perfect body or gray hair or comparing yourself to past sexual performances can get in the way of being in the moment.  Try to let go of such thoughts and take pleasure in the touch and closeness right at hand.

·      Use it or lose it

Those who have sex weekly report more satisfaction and better relationships than those who don’t. It is not unusual to go through a dry spell with no sex, just don’t take it to heart. It doesn’t mean the relationship is doomed but it does mean it needs some extra tender loving care.

·      Know that sexual disagreements are inevitable

For people who believe in a sexual soulmate, it’s important to remember that sexual disagreements are somewhat inevitable in a long-term relationship. Make compromises and chances are you’ll both be doing things to make each other happier in the bedroom.

·      Be adventurous

It’s not necessary to go completely gung-ho wild but there’s nothing quite like doing something out of the ordinary instead of the same old, same old, to not only accommodate your inner adventurous spirit but to create some lasting memories.

Have you ever made love in the woods – secluded of course.  Gone skinny-dipping, had sex in a different room other than the bedroom, watched an x-rated movie or explored erotic books or films? 

What about performing a strip tease or send naughty texts or emails to one another during the day lighting the fire for a romantic interlude later on?  Having fun coming up with sexual adventures can be a boost to kindling sexual energy.

·      Be playful

When you think of fun, the word playful tends to tag along with it.  Playfulness is a quality breathing a breath of fresh air reviving your sex life once again.

Playfulness may include taking a shower or bubble bath together with the warmth of the water being sort of like an appetizer to sex.  Or leave each other love notes in your partner’s pocket or purse reminding them of your desire.  Have a pillow fight, tickle one another or simply laughing together has a special way of creating feelings of desire and closeness.

·      Be creative

If you only do the missionary position, you’ll never realize how much you’re missing out.  Try new positions, make love in the morning instead of only at night, wear sexy lingerie or use sex toys to add a new dimension to intimacy. 

·      Be sensual

Our senses love to be stimulated to heighten sexual awareness.  Begin with the bedroom.  Is it an environment that shouts “designed for lovemaking” or is it barely a whisper?  Use silk sheets to softly caress your skin, play music you both enjoy setting the mood, have the scent of flower wafting through the room, light candles for a warm glow, and bring to bed tasty, juicy, ripe fruit to whet the appetite and desire for sex.  When all five senses are engaged, a sexual tango is sure to happen.

·      Be complimentary of one another

Who doesn’t like a compliment, even if you may not agree with it?  Giving out a compliment shows respect, admiration, but mainly love for each other.  It shows you care enough to notice an aspect of your partner that you relish and wanted to let them know that.  Compliments of “you look very sexy,” or “you give the best back rubs,” can set the tone and mood for the rest of the day leading to a deeper sexual satisfaction. 

·      Be romantic

There’s nothing quite like romance to bring a feeling of excitement and mystery associated with love.  Bring home flowers unexpectedly or write a poem about your lover and read it to them in a romantic setting.  Make a candlelight dinner featuring all their favorite foods or plan a weekend getaway. 

The glamour of romance may seem old-fashioned to the younger generation but it will never go out of style as long as it brings a couple closer together. 

When our attitudes about sexuality are framed with love and positivity, fun eventually finds its way back into the bedroom – or other places. Nurturing this precious part of our lives can preserve and prolong a healthy sex life for years to come.