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Making Foreplay Last

The excitement of getting your partner into bed can make your sexual encounter a sprint, but slowing sex down can help you achieve better, more prolonged orgasms.  It’s easy to forget to explore your partner’s body, especially when you’ve been with the same person for a long time.  But kissing, touching, flirting and all the components of foreplay are similarly important whether you’ve been with someone for a long time or not. Let’s take a look at how to make foreplay last and keep on having getter and better sex with your partner.

Start foreplay long before the bedroom:

Sending a partner a sexy text message can give you a good head start on arousal.  So much of foreplay is creating an environment of desire, which doesn’t require being in the same room with someone.

Get your head right: 

Try closing your eyes and breathing deeply while thinking. If you picture yourself in a happy memory, you'll begin to feel the same joyful emotion and open-heartedness before sex. Your main sex organ is your brain so positive feelings like this carry over to the way you feel about your partner during sex and leave you more content with each other afterward.

Try more cuddling:

Not just for after sex, try cuddling before. Your relationship will benefit in the long run because it draws partners closer together before one of the most intimate moments their relationship has.

Focus on kissing:                     

This can have a huge impact on your relationship.  The face to face contact and intimacy involved in kissing creates a deeper connection between partners.  So next time you are getting frisky with your lady or guy, take time to kiss them instead of skipping through the bases to the main event.

Create buildup with public (and private) touching:

A large part of foreplay is the buildup in can provide for desire between you and your partner. It allows you the opportunity to draw out the initiation of anything sexual before getting down.  This gives both of you a chance to build anticipation and prepare for sex mentally. Exchanging glances, kisses and touches, then teasingly walking away can help the increase the intensity of what is to come. Some people start far in advance by teasing and foreplay throughout the day.  You can schedule events that allow time together but not the privacy to do anything crazy.  Sneaking around to get to second base can be fun for both partners and help get you revved up for when you can actually get each other’s clothes off.