Different forms of sexual activity like foreplay and oral sex can be a big part of any romp with your partner. Sex isn’t just about vaginal penetration.  Oral sex gives the giver an opportunity to be generous and please their partner.  It can be an incredibly fun experience for the giver, and if you are having fun then your receiver probably is too.  Enthusiasm is the best quality in giving oral sex, as it is a real confidence boost to your partner.

Here are some of our best tips for both men and women to give better, and get better oral sex:

Get Comfortable

Most people, especially women, need some time to relax.  Oral sex in many ways is more intimate than vaginal penetration, so make sure everyone is comfortable. Take the time to relax and establish some basic, light foreplay.  This way when the time comes for oral sex the recipient is good and ready.  When you are giving oral sex, nothing will kill the mood faster than fidgeting around and readjusting yourself constantly.  So not only should you be emotionally comfortable, but physically. You want to find a position that feels good for you. Generally it is easiest to position yourself between his or her legs. The receiver can be sitting on the edge of the bed or sofa, lie back, or even standing. It takes men an average of three to five minutes to orgasm, while it can take women much longer.  Either way, find a position that can be comfortable for a short or extended period of time.

Don’t forget the lube

Once you are ready to get down to business, make sure you add lubrication to the genitals, whether with your saliva or a non-toxic aid.  This will help you avoid any unnecessary friction and be much more pleasurable for your partner.  Lubrication can also help you when using your hands to aid your mouth, and create more stimulation.  When giving a man oral, using your hand can help you establish a good baseline technique, and cover more ground than with your mouth alone.  Most people’s mouths cannot accommodate even an average-sized penis, so your hand is there to help and get a smooth rhythm going without over exhausting yourself. You can try alternating between using just your mouth and using just your hand.

It’s ok to get creative

Once you have revved up your partner and gotten a basic rhythm going, you can change your technique to accommodate your partner’s tastes.  Everyone likes different things, and this is the time to be generous and explore.  If you don’t know what he/she likes best, then just ask.  Most people like being involved in this way.  Try to pay attention to physical cues and body language to gauge what works best.  For a man, you can spend a little extra time focusing on his frenulum, which is the seam on the underside of his penis. For many men, this is the most sensitive area of the penis and can be a real turn on.  For a woman, the clitoris should be the main focus as it contains the ultra-sensitive nerve endings that can get her to climax.